When is it time to give up hope?

I had plans to go to bed early, but the next day found me again before I had a chance to sleep. I have been trying to process all the recent events, but it feels like more just keeps getting added to my plate before I have had enough time to digest my last bite.

The indigestion and anxiety had me all twisted up inside. Note to self, don’t read spicy emails right before bed.

I kid you not, I had this very thought: How great would it be if the word of the day was precipice? Then I could write one heck of a blog.

Well, be careful what you wish for. I opened up the reader list this morning and couldn’t believe what I saw. I doubt this will ever happen again.

Was I fated to write about this precipice I am teetering on? What if I’m not ready?

There are so many decisions to be made; where to go, what and whom to leave behind. I think I need a minute before I’m ready to jump into the unknown future that awaits.

The hardest part about standing at the precipice isn’t taking a leap of faith into the future. It’s giving up hope on fixing the difficult relationships you have spent so much time trying to repair or letting go of old dreams in order to put yourself in a better place.

All the efforts, time, and heart you put into trying to solve those problems and overcome them, create a good working path and save painful relationships …..

When you find yourself at a precipice, it frequently involves letting go of something or someone in order to move on to something new. This is true for both bad and good.

I’m tired of fighting this fight. I want to move forward, exhilarated by the possibilities.

But there is just one question I still need to answer before I can jump.

Am I ready to give up hope on people or do I go back and work harder to make the path more accessible, so they can jump with me? 

I’m not sure if I have enough strength to go back for them; keep battling the same rocky shores.

Header photo by Elaine Kelly, author of Free The Truth

18 thoughts on “When is it time to give up hope?

  1. I say let them go. I’ve been in this situation a few times, and life always gets better without them, and hopefully you leaving gives them the impetus to change. It’s not to say you won’t miss them at times, because you probably will. Just think of it as something that’s run its course.

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    1. I think you are right. Such great advice. I really admire your voice and think your website is fantastic. Straight forward, real… for me you say so many of the same words in my own thoughts, but just different enough to get through the voices. (I mean that figuratively) Like “Something that’s run its course”, it really resonates with me.

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      1. Thank you so much, you made my day! One of my favorite things about blogging is that we all bounce our knowledge off of each other and get to know each other on a deeper level.

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  2. Since I don’t know the details, I could be way off, but these are the questions rolling around in my brain: Do you really have to decide now, or if it’s a matter of where you want to put your time and energy. Does it have to be a leap, or can you take some steps? Can you move forward to a better place and let those who want to follow, follow? Are you investing much more than those you are trying to save? Anyway, I wish you the best.

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    1. Thank you for taking the time to leave such a thoughtful comment. I’m particularly struggling with leaving behind family, that has not acted like one, as I start new chapters in my life. It’s hard to give up on family, but that doesn’t make trying any less toxic to your health.

      “Since I don’t know the details”…. Some posts are hard to comment on. Plus as soon as you have had a bad comment experience, a person might tend to be a little apprehensive about leaving honest, caring advice/comments. You reminded me of the very scary things we risk when we leave comments, but braved the risk anyways. Thank You!!

      I welcome constructive criticism, advice, and completely random thoughts on all posts. I think it’s important to have an open space, where people feel they can say what they are compelled to without the fear of being misjudged or treated badly for trying.

      As a telemarketer, a woman once yelled at me; told me I was going to Hell and that she hopes my babies die. Believers, you can tell me that you are worried for my soul and think I’m going to hell, but I draw the line at babies dying in a non-Jonathan Swift satirical manner.

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  3. You could try the ‘three times you’re out’ process. The first time they do something that hurts you, it could have been a mistake, an error of judgement, forgivable – once. The second time shows it might just be a tool they use to manipulate people (you), or a habit – not forgivable, and tell them so. The third time – cut the ties and walk off to make your own life.
    We can’t fix other people. We can lead by example. We can be the only person in our lives who knows the true path (wobbly and with blind corners and all) – and not be led astray by others. Of course, the path of our lives involves other people, but we get to choose the ones who aren’t there to make it hard, harder, impossible to move.
    There is no precipice – there is only choice, so make your choice to see when other people aren’t interested in your best option.
    It’s hard, but how do we get to meet the right people if all the time in our lives is spent trying to ‘fix’ the wrong ones?

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    1. That is such a profound amazing comment! It reminds me of some advice that has been rolling around in my head, when a person shows you who they are, believe them.
      As a hopeful believer in the goodness of people, sometimes this is hard.
      I am so grateful for your comment, thank you for taking the time out to leave it!

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  4. There’s a great piece of advice, from one anxious soul to another: “Note to self, don’t read spicy emails right before bed.” 😊 I’ve been facing the same problem. I guess I’ll only come back for people who are willing to change to benefit our relationship. Sometimes we’ve done everything in our power. If it’s too difficult, then maybe keeping that relationship is just not worth it. It should be as smooth as possible, with both wanting to get better, drawn by respect/love for each other. My perspective, at least.

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